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Question - (30 November 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2008)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:
What does it mean when you can be entirely naked in the shower, with your boyfriend talking to you (sat on the toilet) and he doesn't get an erection...
Any ideas? Does it mean he doesn't find you arousing? Does it mean he could be gay? Does it perhaps mean he is having an off day? Aren't men supposed to be governed by what is in their trousers? Aren't they meant to be visually stimulated?
Any advice much appreciated.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Q: New boyfriend unable to achieve erection
Asked by Isabella00 On Mar 07, 2011
I've been friends with this very nice guy for two years now, but recently I started to develop deeper feelings for him. A couple of weeks ago we kissed for the first time and some days ago we tried to have sex. And I say tried, because he couldn't get an erection. Well, it was sort of erect, but not very hard. And when he put the condom on he got limp. I'm just wondering what the reason might be. Does anyone have experience with this? And could give me some tips?It's just that I'm starting to feel insecure, because maybe it's because I'm not attractive enough to his high standards. He has never told me that he thinks I'm pretty or hot, but I think that's just the kind of guy he is (my previous bfs told me this all the time). Although, I do get a lot of attention from men and I don't consider myself to be unattractive. Might it be because he knows that I'm way more experienced than him? Some kind of insecurity on his part? I tried to talk to him about it, but he didn't really want to give me a reason (or perhaps he really hasn't got a clue himself).
I've been friends with this very nice guy for two years now, but recently I started to develop deeper feelings for him. A couple of weeks ago we kissed for the first time and some days ago we tried to have sex. And I say tried, because he couldn't get an erection. Well, it was sort of erect, but not very hard. And when he put the condom on he got limp. I'm just wondering what the reason might be. Does anyone have experience with this? And could give me some tips?It's just that I'm starting to feel insecure, because maybe it's because I'm not attractive enough to his high standards. He has never told me that he thinks I'm pretty or hot, but I think that's just the kind of guy he is (my previous bfs told me this all the time). Although, I do get a lot of attention from men and I don't consider myself to be unattractive. Might it be because he knows that I'm way more experienced than him? Some kind of insecurity on his part? I tried to talk to him about it, but he didn't really want to give me a reason (or perhaps he really hasn't got a clue himself).
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Pressures to desire women and not men in medieval India
The following is a quote from an article in 'The Economist' on Babur the Islamic conqueror of India.
"At one party Babur saw a very suprising sight: a woman drinking. She made a pass at him. 'I got rid of her by pretending to be drunk.' Babur was not much interestedd in women. He explains that he had married early and neglected the girl. He uses that to introduce the subject of his passion for a boy called Baburi whom he sees in the bazaar. Until then he says he had 'no inclination for anybody and no knowlege of love or desire.' His passion for Baburi drives him to distraction. Shyness prevents him from approaching the boy. He quotes a persian couplet: I am ashamed when I see my friend. My companions look at me. I look the other way.'
Whether he got anywhere with Baburi is not clear."
"At one party Babur saw a very suprising sight: a woman drinking. She made a pass at him. 'I got rid of her by pretending to be drunk.' Babur was not much interestedd in women. He explains that he had married early and neglected the girl. He uses that to introduce the subject of his passion for a boy called Baburi whom he sees in the bazaar. Until then he says he had 'no inclination for anybody and no knowlege of love or desire.' His passion for Baburi drives him to distraction. Shyness prevents him from approaching the boy. He quotes a persian couplet: I am ashamed when I see my friend. My companions look at me. I look the other way.'
Whether he got anywhere with Baburi is not clear."
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