Q: New boyfriend unable to achieve erection

Asked by Isabella00 On Mar 07, 2011

I've been friends with this very nice guy for two years now, but recently I started to develop deeper feelings for him. A couple of weeks ago we kissed for the first time and some days ago we tried to have sex. And I say tried, because he couldn't get an erection. Well, it was sort of erect, but not very hard. And when he put the condom on he got limp. I'm just wondering what the reason might be. Does anyone have experience with this? And could give me some tips?It's just that I'm starting to feel insecure, because maybe it's because I'm not attractive enough to his high standards. He has never told me that he thinks I'm pretty or hot, but I think that's just the kind of guy he is (my previous bfs told me this all the time). Although, I do get a lot of attention from men and I don't consider myself to be unattractive. Might it be because he knows that I'm way more experienced than him? Some kind of insecurity on his part? I tried to talk to him about it, but he didn't really want to give me a reason (or perhaps he really hasn't got a clue himself).