Avoiding intimate contact with lover to avoid getting an erection

Rahul met Rajeev when the latter came to attend his cousin's wedding in Jodhpur, a beautiful town in Rajasthan. Both were boys spilling with virility.
They immediately knew, they were attracted to each other, and when Rajeev made advances to Rahul, he couldn't resist himself.
They started to touch each other often, but when he tried to lean on his crotch, making it seem casual, as boys in India often do, Rahul quickly moved away. He did it in a panicky kind of way making it very obvious. Rajeev knew that Rahul is extremely attracted to him, and that he had moved away to avoid an erection.
In the night they slept together and Rajeev masturbated Rahul in the dead of the dark night. While Rahul allowed Rajeev to do this, he did not utter a word, and pretend as if nothing was happening.
But even after this incident of masturbation, when Rajeev made another visit to Jodhpur to see Rahul, and they went on a motorcycle to visit a temple, along with two more boys (they all sat on the same bike), and Rajeev was driving the motorcycle, he expected Rahul to sit behind him, but he was shocked when Rahul did not sit behind him, but asked another boy to do so and he sat behind the other boy.
Rajeev and Rahul had become extremely possessive about each other's bodies from day one, as is common in such relations between straight men in India, and were extremely jealous about anyone else touching each other intimately (even putting arms across each other) and to see someone feel up another's crotch and that too continuously for such a long journey was extremely excruciating for Rahul.
It was clear, that Rahul had done this because he knew he would get an erection if he sat behind Rajeev.
To take revenge, Rajeev let Rahul drive the mobike this time and now sat behind another boy. Now, it was Rahul's time to get jealous. In fact, he was so jealous that when getting off, he quickly turned to see Rajeev's crotch and how it was touching the other guy... and he did it in a very obvious way.
Rahul did not want Rajeev to know that he gets an erection with him, even when they had sex (masturbation) already, and they were now in an unacknowledged relationship as Rajeev had come all the way from Delhi to see him.

Ashutosh had kept away from girls all through his school and college days. He was a masculine, straight male, and like many normal straight men, no sexual need for girls at all... in fact, he hated the idea.

It was for this reason that he kept away from boys groups, because they put immense pressure on him to prove his sexual interest in girls.

But, he knew he had to get married one day, and although he dreaded the day, he knew somehow he will just have to do it.

A straight guy in his neighbourhood refused to get married, and he knew that he was interested in men too. He liked the guy very much, so one day he flirted with him in typical straight fashion -- touching his crotch several times, but still making it sound casual. After that the other guy wanted to take it up further but Ashutosh became scared/ filled with phobia, and withdrew. But later made advances again, then withdrew again... this went on for two years, and by the time Ashutosh could gather up some courage to advance his relationship with the guy, the other guy became quite irritated with him, and inspite of him making several attempts just rejected him.

Now Ashutosh got a highly paying job, and he was 25. But, he did not get a girl friend or get married. By the time he became 27, his parents and relatives started to ask him to get married.

He tried to avoid getting married for two years by rejecting the offers that came to his parents, always finding some fault with the girl.

He hated it when the parents of girls approached his parents for marriage. He didn't want to face them. Once, a girl in another city wanted to talk to him on the webcam, but he feigned that his webcam was not working. His mother sought the help of the neighbourhood guy, who was once interested in him, and he willingly obliged and tolk Ashutosh he could come to his computer to chat with the girl.

Ashutosh got very pissed with this, and in order to get back at him, he loaded a programme on his computer which brought out all the pictures of naked men having sex that were loaded on the other guy's computer, in front of his brother.

Ashutosh avoided marriage for two-three years, but eventually, one day, he gave up... that too for a very plain looking girl.

He prepared himself to face up to the marriage and the aftermath... And, when he managed to do the needful in bed, he was so happy and proud, that it did't matter to him at all, how he hated to be with the girl. For him, what was important was that he did it, and the girl didn't suspect his lack of interest.

In fact, he was so extremely happy at this that he felt at the top of the world. Like he couldn't have asked for anhthing more with life. He started to sing the tarzan theme at the top of his voice -- especially for the benefit of his next door neighbour -- that he has 'conquered the world'.

He went for honeymoon with the girl and pretended to be very cozy with her, especially when doing the shoots. Had it not been for the immense pressure that he felt to be with her, he would have hated to be even near the girl. With time, he got more and more used to it.

If you don't give in to the pressure you lose face amongst peers

Ramesh is a timid boy studying in Class 10. There is a bully Sonu in his class who claims to have had sex with girls. Sonu keeps teasing Ramesh for no reason than that he is timid.

One day, in the presence of the others, he tells Ramesh that Ramesh will never be able to satisfy women, because to satisfy her he has to put her on 'heat'. Ramesh thinks that Sonu knows everything about sex, and believes what he says. He actually does not have a clue as to how to put a woman on 'heat'. He develops an inferiority complex. It affects his personality and self-confidence.

Not getting it up will bring social disgrace

Another common saying is that if the man is unable to satisfy his wife, she will then go to other men for sex. This is a great disgrace for any man, as it is supposed to expose his lack of mardanigi.

You'd lose the battle of manhood if you don't get it up with wife

Young men in traditional India are told that if a man fails to get it up in the first night (of marriage), he would lose the 'battle' and will become a Joru ka gulaam, i.e. he will be ruled by his wife for the rest of his life.

You're not a man if you can't satisfy a woman

A Hindi magazine Saras Kathayein (a cheap sex magazine, masquerading as a serious magazine on sex), in its March 2004 issue quotes a woman in one of its stories (purported to be a real account): "Mother f***, you thought you were a man ..... you burst balloon, you cannot bear the heat of a woman's body ..... you want to play with fire ..... where is your masculinity ..... come on, show your manhood!" The man in this story has tried sexual intercourse with her twice and yet has not satisfied her (it turns out that she is a lesbian). In response to the woman, he only mutters, "Sorry!"

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