The pressure created in the boys group in our society to force men to work on their sexual interest for girls and to pretend it all the time includes the misconception that 'real' men get an erection as soon as they come in intimate contact with a woman, or see their 'sexy' photographs and in any case when they are naked with them. This is how men, especially young men and boys react to it:
Tarun is 18 years old and in first year. His friend in college keeps talking about girls all the time and Tarun is forced to do the same. It is not that Tarun doesn't have an interest in girls, but its not so prominent that he has to talk about it all the time. He is not even interested in a relationship with girls.
But Tarun is extremely worried about one thing. His friend keeps talking about getting an erection as soon as he sees pictures of naked girls. He mentioned how in school once when he was made the monitor for a day, he kept pushing girls by holding their hands to discipline them. He said this gave him an erection all day.
He just doesn't get that aroused that he should develop an erection like that. In fact, he is not even sure that when its time for him to 'prove' his manhood, if he will be able to develop an instant erection or not? And this worries him no end.
In public however, he too adds to the overall pressure that the society conditions boys to create, by claiming all the time that he develops an erection by seeing girls' pictures and on buses while being close to them.
But he is dead scared that if anyone should ever find out, he will be ruined. He is sure that he will commit suicide if this should ever happen. He is extremely scared of growing up and getting married, for then he will have to have sex with a girl, and then he will be 'caught'.
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